Take things to the next level

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    Kiss him on the ear. If he asks you what you were doing, just say you thought you saw some barbeque sauce. Then you can say, 'Should I stop?'. Then he can either say 'Yes' or 'No'. If you need to know how to do the rest, I would need some more time to prepare a document for you.
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    TavistockToad wrote: »
    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Ive given off all the signs that I like him

    Have you said 'i like you' boys don't often notice 'signs'

    That's for dam sure, I just dont want to *kitten* it up. I figured I'd see if any fellow MFPrs had a similar situation

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    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    Kiss him on the ear. If he asks you what you were doing, just say you thought you saw some barbeque sauce. Then you can say, 'Should I stop?'. Then he can either say 'Yes' or 'No'. If you need to know how to do the rest, I would need some more time to prepare a document for you.

    Lmao this is awesome, I had a similar idea in mind since we are taking a day trip via train to NYC Saturday. I was like hmmm I need to find a cleaver way to be like its late we should just get a room and leave early tomorrow and then go from there haha. But that is probably too obvious

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    Honestly just get it out in the open and say it. Saves time, worry, heartache etc. You know, it's the Band aid theory just jerk it off already and get it over with. I couldn't imagine a guy that is not otherwise committed saying "no lets just be pals".
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    You say you have given him signs. I'd like to know what these are to determine whether or not they are overt or covert. Something you might see as a huge sign may not be viewed that way by him. Also, how is his self esteem? I know from personal experience that even though I recognized signs, i simply thought that there was no way the girl liked me and convinced myself I was misinterpreting them.

    You know what might also be good? Just coming out and saying that you want to explore the feelings to see if they are legitimate or if they are just something that you are remembering from the past. This way you are on the same page - no guarantees. I mean, what if he has been pining for you for 10 years, and you pounce on him and decide it's not for you? That's probably going to sting a little.

    But if you let him know up front, that you aren't sure and want to test the waters, then you don't give him an unrealistic expectation.

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    I like the bbq sauce idea, that'd work for me. But, I also think just coming out with it and being truthful is the best approach. I'm a shy guy and I can tell you that "signs" don't work. I can convince myself that all of those "signs" mean something else altogether. I also think that he isn't hanging out with you just because you're buds. I'm guessing there's some interest on his part.
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    Just start humping him & hope he gives in. ;) jk.
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    wolverine66 wrote: »
    You say you have given him signs. I'd like to know what these are to determine whether or not they are overt or covert. Something you might see as a huge sign may not be viewed that way by him. Also, how is his self esteem? I know from personal experience that even though I recognized signs, i simply thought that there was no way the girl liked me and convinced myself I was misinterpreting them.

    You know what might also be good? Just coming out and saying that you want to explore the feelings to see if they are legitimate or if they are just something that you are remembering from the past. This way you are on the same page - no guarantees. I mean, what if he has been pining for you for 10 years, and you pounce on him and decide it's not for you? That's probably going to sting a little.

    But if you let him know up front, that you aren't sure and want to test the waters, then you don't give him an unrealistic expectation.

    I think his self confidence is pretty high, not arrogantly so but enough to make a move if he wants. That said my resume intimidates most guys and with him knowing me since before I left for the military and began working at MIT I think it intimidates him. Like he thinks he wouldn't be good enough, I know a few guys who have told me that.

    As far as the signs, just the normal flirting things most chicks do eye contact, texting...I have also been out of the game for about 5 years so I probably dont even know how to flirt as well as I used to come to think about it

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    angelxbaby714 wrote: »
    Just start humping him & hope he gives in. ;) jk.
    Good answer! She would find out real quick where we stand.
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    wolverine66 wrote: »
    You say you have given him signs. I'd like to know what these are to determine whether or not they are overt or covert. Something you might see as a huge sign may not be viewed that way by him. Also, how is his self esteem? I know from personal experience that even though I recognized signs, i simply thought that there was no way the girl liked me and convinced myself I was misinterpreting them.

    You know what might also be good? Just coming out and saying that you want to explore the feelings to see if they are legitimate or if they are just something that you are remembering from the past. This way you are on the same page - no guarantees. I mean, what if he has been pining for you for 10 years, and you pounce on him and decide it's not for you? That's probably going to sting a little.

    But if you let him know up front, that you aren't sure and want to test the waters, then you don't give him an unrealistic expectation.

    I think his self confidence is pretty high, not arrogantly so but enough to make a move if he wants. That said my resume intimidates most guys and with him knowing me since before I left for the military and began working at MIT I think it intimidates him. Like he thinks he wouldn't be good enough, I know a few guys who have told me that.

    As far as the signs, just the normal flirting things most chicks do eye contact, texting...I have also been out of the game for about 5 years so I probably dont even know how to flirt as well as I used to come to think about it

    Yeah, I don't think he knows if that's all you've been doing. Some people might disagree with me, but there is a difference between flirting and hitting on. It's time to go into hit on mode.
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    Whats a good line.. "You have really sexy eyes, lets hump!"
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Whats a good line.. "You have really sexy eyes, lets hump!"

    I prefer "How bout we get a pizza, and screw?".
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Whats a good line.. "You have really sexy eyes, lets hump!"

    See ur learning already haha :D
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    angelxbaby714 wrote: »
    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Whats a good line.. "You have really sexy eyes, lets hump!"

    See ur learning already haha :D

    Haha I do what I can. I could use one of my buddies lines... "I wanna be on you"
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    Just ask yourself, is it worth it? Do you guys go out and eat together, go to the movies, or just hang out and bs with friends? Do you guys already do "couples" stuff, and if so, just ask. If not, I wouldn't risk it.
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    Most of our friends are with the same people that's how we met years back we all chilled with the same crew. Lately when we hang out though its just the two of us
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    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    Kiss him on the ear. If he asks you what you were doing, just say you thought you saw some barbeque sauce. Then you can say, 'Should I stop?'. Then he can either say 'Yes' or 'No'. If you need to know how to do the rest, I would need some more time to prepare a document for you.

    This is just...AWESOME!!
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    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Whats a good line.. "You have really sexy eyes, lets hump!"

    I prefer "How bout we get a pizza, and screw?".

    & if they say "wtf" just say "what? U don't like pizza" lmao!
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Most of our friends are with the same people that's how we met years back we all chilled with the same crew. Lately when we hang out though its just the two of us

    I was in the same boat. If you can see him on the next level, just ask. There's no exact science to this. he either feels the same about you or he doesn't. Is he going out with other women, does he have dates, does he flirt with other women around you? Is he a player? A great friend who will have a shoulder for you to lean on? So much to consider. Like I said, just ask.
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    By "next level" do you mean that you want the D or that you want a boyfriend?

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