Take things to the next level

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If you are interested in taking things to the next level with a long time friends how do you do it without making the situation awkward...Do you pounce on them like a dog in heat and hope they accept the advance or maybe some alcohol LOL. How would you do it?
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    Definitely get a drink on board ;)
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    Wine?
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    That's pretty much it. Drinking and pouncing. Let the rest figure itself out.
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    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    That's pretty much it. Drinking and pouncing. Let the rest figure itself out.

    Would work for me!
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    The question is, would the guy go along with it even if he wasn't interested or push them away and be like umm no..(the ultimate fear)
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    The question is, would the guy go along with it even if he wasn't interested or push them away and be like umm no..(the ultimate fear)

    Only 1 way to find out!
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    The question is, would the guy go along with it even if he wasn't interested or push them away and be like umm no..(the ultimate fear)

    So what is it that you want because to me these two options are both the same if I want to get serious with the person.
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    The question is, would the guy go along with it even if he wasn't interested or push them away and be like umm no..(the ultimate fear)

    Unless they are gay or married, most guys that I know would go along with it.
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    asflatasapancake wrote: »
    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    The question is, would the guy go along with it even if he wasn't interested or push them away and be like umm no..(the ultimate fear)

    Unless they are gay or married, most guys that I know would go along with it.

    Yeah, most guys in the "friend zone" aren't there by their choice...
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    Personally, I'd just ask.
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    If you are interested in taking things to the next level with a long time friends how do you do it without making the situation awkward...

    What level are you on now and what level are you shooting for?
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    Well normally im never scared to make the first move...but in this case he is very hard to read. I'm not looking to start a long term relationship, just see where it goes...but I dont know if I can rely on him to make the first move he is shy. He was my high school boyfriend way way back in the day and the relationship was too juvenile to really count. Ive finally come home after ten years so I want to see if any thing is there we have been hanging out alot and we talked while I was gone. How should I do it, I dont even know if I am still his type :(
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Well normally im never scared to make the first move...but in this case he is very hard to read. I'm not looking to start a long term relationship, just see where it goes...but I dont know if I can rely on him to make the first move he is shy. He was my high school boyfriend way way back in the day and the relationship was too juvenile to really count. Ive finally come home after ten years so I want to see if any thing is there we have been hanging out alot and we talked while I was gone. How should I do it, I dont even know if I am still his type :(

    So you still like him. Does he know this? If he does not then why is that?

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    Go for it....drink, pounce, bed? lol
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    Ive given off all the signs that I like him
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    edited May 2015
    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Ive given off all the signs that I like him

    Have you said 'i like you'? boys don't often notice 'signs'
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Ive given off all the signs that I like him

    You said he is shy. From my experience, I do not pick up all these so called signs. Watch him not really know for sure you want him until the clothes are gone.

    Also I see you have not just came out of told him you still like him.

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    that's why its funny when women talk about friendships
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    soldiergrl_101 wrote: »
    Well normally im never scared to make the first move...but in this case he is very hard to read. I'm not looking to start a long term relationship, just see where it goes...but I dont know if I can rely on him to make the first move he is shy. He was my high school boyfriend way way back in the day and the relationship was too juvenile to really count. Ive finally come home after ten years so I want to see if any thing is there we have been hanging out alot and we talked while I was gone. How should I do it, I dont even know if I am still his type :(

    Don't worry, he wants to fck you. Go ahead and make the move because he is just way too shy. You won't regret it.
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    I made mistake of doing that with a very good friend. Wish I'd never messed up that friendship. But it took an evening of drinking and dancing which led to us going there.

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