Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Italian_Buju wrote: »
That's horrible! But I can totally relate.Italian_Buju wrote: »Yeah, that is a nasty illness. Way earlier in the thread we were talking about serial killers and I said I knew a girl that was attacked by the local one we had. It was a savage attack and she was in the hospital for weeks and weeks, and neither of her parents visited her even once, because they were both just drunk all the time.....to make matters worse, her mother was a nasty drunk and when she was finally able to go home, her mother would get drunk and yell nasty stuff at her about hoping she caught AIDS from the rape and stuff. It was pretty tragic.....
Had something similar happen (to a much lesser degree!) when I was 16 and had to have emergency surgery... as in, saw the doctor at 4 PM and surgery booked for 11 PM that night... my parents brought me to the hospital, provided the insurance info, and left. They told the nurse to call and let them know how my surgery turned out. Their excuse was "We have to get up for work in the morning" but it was really all about not missing any drinking that evening.
I was sexually assaulted by an older male coworker when I was 17 and didn't tell my parents, for fear of hearing negative and unsupportive comments.
I can relate to that because my mother did that to me! I was about 13 and was vomiting all day and in a lot of pain. A friend had slept over the night before, and by morning when she was leaving I headed over to the ER. My mother checked me in, and then left. I spent hours and hours in an ER room, puking my brains out and passing out over and over. The surgeon said I needed my appendix out, but they could not find my parents to sign the surgery consent. This was the mid 80's so before cell phones etc. My friend that had slept over stopped in with her mom that evening because they had been calling the house and could not get anyone so they came to the ER to see if I was still there. I vaguely remember seeing them between passing out. My friend's mother lost her mind when she realized I was there alone and that they hospital could not find my parents. She actually went out and hunted them down on her own. They were out at a restaurant having dinner. My father had come home from work, and my mother did not even tell him I was at the hospital or anything. I remember the DR reaming her out, and her excuse was that she was diabetic and needed dinner. REALLY? Grab a sandwich, wtf. Not only that, but she was gone for hours and hours before that.
Because they had to wait so long, my appendix burst while they were taking it out, I ended up in hospital for three weeks with a nasty infection and my scar is HUGE! My mother was a complete asshat. That is one of the lesser things she did to me......
My mom is cut from the same cloth. I won't add to the sad stories here. I figured it out pretty early and I wanted to move out by age 9.
I have very firm boundaries with her and I work very hard to be there for my kids and I still worry that I am not doing it right but there is a lot of love, support, and communication.
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shannonbun wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Heehee, thanks, we tend to think that when listening to the complaints of our monogamous friends but all relationships take work, friends family, partners but we tend to take them all for granted
Exactly! Which is why I'm sitting here thinking you may actually be a few steps ahead in being so conscious and deliberate about those aspects of your relationship, whereas the rest of us in more traditional partnerships just sit back and think it will all magically work out because "we're in luuuurve", at least when we're younger. (Coming from someone who got married at the age of 20, because I thought I knew it all)
My university has us go through a class on the psychology of relationships for that reason. It's pretty smart, since it's a freshman-level but required class. Manages to reach most of the students and get them to think about what their boundaries are, what their relationship style is (and which ones to avoid) and how secure they are in themselves. They definitely go over the fact that love doesn't pay the bills and that love isn't what keeps a marriage together.
Wow - that's awesome. People hesitate to actually come out and say this, but it is true. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication and equal compromise. It's hard to believe that at this point in time that so many people believe that falling in love is the "end point". The "happily ever after". No, that's just the beginning.
Falling in love is like weight loss. Keeping it going is maintenance.
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ladybuggnorris wrote: »Confession: I will use the same k-cup 2-3 times. lol
Worst confession I've read here, ewwwwwww. I loathe weak coffee...I'm the one who likes the cup from the bottom of the french press that's practically strong enough to stand up on its own.
But that leads to a confession that I do put a splash of cold water in my super-strong coffee to cool it down for maximum immediate gulbability, and that grosses most people out too.
I thought I was the only person who did this! I can down a 16 oz. coffee in under 5 minutes...it is the fastest way to get the caffeine in, without actually injecting it!
I make really strong coffee and drop 1 ice cube per 8oz in it, so I can drink it faster, lol.
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nicsflyingcircus wrote: »shannonbun wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Heehee, thanks, we tend to think that when listening to the complaints of our monogamous friends but all relationships take work, friends family, partners but we tend to take them all for granted
Exactly! Which is why I'm sitting here thinking you may actually be a few steps ahead in being so conscious and deliberate about those aspects of your relationship, whereas the rest of us in more traditional partnerships just sit back and think it will all magically work out because "we're in luuuurve", at least when we're younger. (Coming from someone who got married at the age of 20, because I thought I knew it all)
My university has us go through a class on the psychology of relationships for that reason. It's pretty smart, since it's a freshman-level but required class. Manages to reach most of the students and get them to think about what their boundaries are, what their relationship style is (and which ones to avoid) and how secure they are in themselves. They definitely go over the fact that love doesn't pay the bills and that love isn't what keeps a marriage together.
Wow - that's awesome. People hesitate to actually come out and say this, but it is true. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication and equal compromise. It's hard to believe that at this point in time that so many people believe that falling in love is the "end point". The "happily ever after". No, that's just the beginning.
Falling in love is like weight loss. Keeping it going is maintenance.
Lol I love this. So true...
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Today at work one of the other girls didn't lock the bathroom stall she was in and I accidently walked in on her. Then she went around telling everyone about it and I was like 'are we in fifth grade'.
On a kind of related note, nothing feels real to me so nothing really upsets me except for feeling fat or bloated. But the good thing is I FINALLY don't feel sick like I did from Thursday to yesterday.0 -
I love my foods with relish or honey mustard or maple syrup if it's meaty
Tartar sauce sounds pretty interesting.0 -
nicsflyingcircus wrote: »shannonbun wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Heehee, thanks, we tend to think that when listening to the complaints of our monogamous friends but all relationships take work, friends family, partners but we tend to take them all for granted
Exactly! Which is why I'm sitting here thinking you may actually be a few steps ahead in being so conscious and deliberate about those aspects of your relationship, whereas the rest of us in more traditional partnerships just sit back and think it will all magically work out because "we're in luuuurve", at least when we're younger. (Coming from someone who got married at the age of 20, because I thought I knew it all)
My university has us go through a class on the psychology of relationships for that reason. It's pretty smart, since it's a freshman-level but required class. Manages to reach most of the students and get them to think about what their boundaries are, what their relationship style is (and which ones to avoid) and how secure they are in themselves. They definitely go over the fact that love doesn't pay the bills and that love isn't what keeps a marriage together.
Wow - that's awesome. People hesitate to actually come out and say this, but it is true. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication and equal compromise. It's hard to believe that at this point in time that so many people believe that falling in love is the "end point". The "happily ever after". No, that's just the beginning.
Falling in love is like weight loss. Keeping it going is maintenance.
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I get anxious way too easily. I am not sure if I have to work tomorrow or not. I told my best friend I do but I wrote down that I don't. The thought of not knowing is driving me nuts because it means I have to get up early, drive into the city and call while on my way there to find out because nobody will be there before I have to leave. I am so mad at myself for not just taking a picture of the schedule but writing it down on a napkin while I was on the go. Plus calling somebody and speaking on the phone is one of the worst things for me.0
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asflatasapancake wrote: »I play with my dingy sometimes.
Typical man...0 -
dearmrsowl wrote: »I get anxious way too easily. I am not sure if I have to work tomorrow or not. I told my best friend I do but I wrote down that I don't. The thought of not knowing is driving me nuts because it means I have to get up early, drive into the city and call while on my way there to find out because nobody will be there before I have to leave. I am so mad at myself for not just taking a picture of the schedule but writing it down on a napkin while I was on the go. Plus calling somebody and speaking on the phone is one of the worst things for me.
Anxiety is the worst! *hugs* I get anxious to the point of not being able to sleep whenever anything changes in my schedule.
I really like your profile pic
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almondbutterbay wrote: »Today at work one of the other girls didn't lock the bathroom stall she was in and I accidently walked in on her. Then she went around telling everyone about it and I was like 'are we in fifth grade'.
On a kind of related note, nothing feels real to me so nothing really upsets me except for feeling fat or bloated. But the good thing is I FINALLY don't feel sick like I did from Thursday to yesterday.
Glad you're feeling better!
Sounds like your coworker needs some more excitement in her life if that's the most interesting thing she can find to talk about.0 -
almondbutterbay wrote: »dearmrsowl wrote: »I get anxious way too easily. I am not sure if I have to work tomorrow or not. I told my best friend I do but I wrote down that I don't. The thought of not knowing is driving me nuts because it means I have to get up early, drive into the city and call while on my way there to find out because nobody will be there before I have to leave. I am so mad at myself for not just taking a picture of the schedule but writing it down on a napkin while I was on the go. Plus calling somebody and speaking on the phone is one of the worst things for me.
Anxiety is the worst! *hugs* I get anxious to the point of not being able to sleep whenever anything changes in my schedule.
I really like your profile pic
Thank you (:
I just took something to help me sleep because I know that otherwise I'll still be up in a couple of hours. It's already 11:37pm here and I have to get up at 5:30.
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almondbutterbay wrote: »Today at work one of the other girls didn't lock the bathroom stall she was in and I accidently walked in on her. Then she went around telling everyone about it and I was like 'are we in fifth grade'.
On a kind of related note, nothing feels real to me so nothing really upsets me except for feeling fat or bloated. But the good thing is I FINALLY don't feel sick like I did from Thursday to yesterday.
Glad you're feeling better!
Sounds like your coworker needs some more excitement in her life if that's the most interesting thing she can find to talk about.
Yeah I was just kind of like -_- cause I thought the issue was over after I apologized for it. Whatever though it wasn't that big of a deal. People sometimes haha. I think it's also cause she's super young and she works the cash register so she has too much time to talk.dearmrsowl wrote: »almondbutterbay wrote: »dearmrsowl wrote: »I get anxious way too easily. I am not sure if I have to work tomorrow or not. I told my best friend I do but I wrote down that I don't. The thought of not knowing is driving me nuts because it means I have to get up early, drive into the city and call while on my way there to find out because nobody will be there before I have to leave. I am so mad at myself for not just taking a picture of the schedule but writing it down on a napkin while I was on the go. Plus calling somebody and speaking on the phone is one of the worst things for me.
Anxiety is the worst! *hugs* I get anxious to the point of not being able to sleep whenever anything changes in my schedule.
I really like your profile pic
Thank you (:
I just took something to help me sleep because I know that otherwise I'll still be up in a couple of hours. It's already 11:37pm here and I have to get up at 5:30.
Sleep well. I hope everything works out with work tomorrow, try not to worry too much about it if you can. Sometimes I have to just keep telling myself that it'll all be over in twenty four hours (or however many hours). Maybe you could try to find something to say to yourself to remind yourself that everything will be okay. It doesn't always work but sometimes it helps.
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nicsflyingcircus wrote: »shannonbun wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Heehee, thanks, we tend to think that when listening to the complaints of our monogamous friends but all relationships take work, friends family, partners but we tend to take them all for granted
Exactly! Which is why I'm sitting here thinking you may actually be a few steps ahead in being so conscious and deliberate about those aspects of your relationship, whereas the rest of us in more traditional partnerships just sit back and think it will all magically work out because "we're in luuuurve", at least when we're younger. (Coming from someone who got married at the age of 20, because I thought I knew it all)
My university has us go through a class on the psychology of relationships for that reason. It's pretty smart, since it's a freshman-level but required class. Manages to reach most of the students and get them to think about what their boundaries are, what their relationship style is (and which ones to avoid) and how secure they are in themselves. They definitely go over the fact that love doesn't pay the bills and that love isn't what keeps a marriage together.
Wow - that's awesome. People hesitate to actually come out and say this, but it is true. It takes a lot of hard work and dedication and equal compromise. It's hard to believe that at this point in time that so many people believe that falling in love is the "end point". The "happily ever after". No, that's just the beginning.
Falling in love is like weight loss. Keeping it going is maintenance.
Lol I love this. So true...
I also love mayo on French fries!
I was at a convention once, and a few people there from the Netherlands were shocked that you have to special order mayo for fries. They'd be happy to know more people are converting
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WestCoastJo82 wrote: »@HollandOats - I do tartar sauce on my fries, and that's basically just mayo with pickles and extra salt. And I use a 1:1 ratio of tartar to fry. Restaurants always look at me crazy but it's super delicious.
I much prefer tartar sauce on my fries! YUM!
I hate mayo, but I love aioli on my fries (also hate ketchup), and that's basically mayo+garlic. Garlic just makes everything better. I'll use tartar sauce sometimes when I have fish and chips, though (speaking of something I almost never have anymore and do miss).0 -
I remember kids at school ordering mayo and fries all the time.
This thread reminded me that sweet and sour sauce and pineapple plum sauce existed. Those are probably my favorite condiment to pair with fried foods.0 -
I'm desperately behind, but I wanted to check in and say hi.
I found out on Saturday that my dad most likely has cancer. He also was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. The prognosis is good, but he will be having surgery in the next few weeks to remove the tumors.
Obviously, I'm kind of a wreck right now.
Good luck with everything will keep your dad in my prayers.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »I love when people get into heated "discussions" on these forums, I just sit back and let them go at it and take away the parts I want. The peope I can't handle are the people who throw in their "bullying" comments (and add nothing useful to the discussion about the OP). It's NOT bullying!! People are allowed to disagree and if someone disagrees by calling names and throwing around immature comments then that's STILL NOT BULLYING-- it's just being a huge, immature, a**!!! Rant over
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Ok one more post before I go back to work. I think the back and forth is funny but then when it gets nasty I leave. I really don't like when it gets nasty. And I don't like when people go on the attack on someone (unless they truly are stupid... not judging). That is why I mostly stay on this thread or ones that are similar.
@pofoster21 I agree- when people start questioning intelligence and attacking personal weight gains/losses then I leave too. But typically up until that point I do like when it gets heated because saves me the time of researching both sides all by myself! I have other sources to compare what I've found to what others have found I do love this thread as it's always positive!
The only threads that make me want to pull out my hair are the ones that people post that cannot eat over 1,000 calories yet they have over a hundred pounds to lose. I've lost around 150 & the only times I couldn't eat over a 1,000 were when I had the stomach bug.0 -
ladybuggnorris wrote: »
That's horrible! But I can totally relate.Italian_Buju wrote: »Yeah, that is a nasty illness. Way earlier in the thread we were talking about serial killers and I said I knew a girl that was attacked by the local one we had. It was a savage attack and she was in the hospital for weeks and weeks, and neither of her parents visited her even once, because they were both just drunk all the time.....to make matters worse, her mother was a nasty drunk and when she was finally able to go home, her mother would get drunk and yell nasty stuff at her about hoping she caught AIDS from the rape and stuff. It was pretty tragic.....
Had something similar happen (to a much lesser degree!) when I was 16 and had to have emergency surgery... as in, saw the doctor at 4 PM and surgery booked for 11 PM that night... my parents brought me to the hospital, provided the insurance info, and left. They told the nurse to call and let them know how my surgery turned out. Their excuse was "We have to get up for work in the morning" but it was really all about not missing any drinking that evening.
I was sexually assaulted by an older male coworker when I was 17 and didn't tell my parents, for fear of hearing negative and unsupportive comments.
I would not say that my parents are uncaring...they would never make rude or hateful comments to me. But, I did learn a lot on how not to be a parent from them. I had my tonsils removed when I was six. My mom drove the 45 minutes to the hospital, stayed while they admitted me, did bloodwork, etc...then went home. She came and picked me up three days later. I do not remember a single time in my life where I was as scared as I was, waking up from that surgery and not knowing anyone.
I am so sorry for all of you who had parents that would leave you in the hospital like that! When my father, husband, son are in the hospital, I don't want to be anywhere else except with them there! I don't always spend the night but I just want to be there with them as much as I possibly can. I can't even imagine leaving a child there alone!0
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